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And how you can turn the tide.

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Equipping yourself with the right tools is 95% of getting the job done right. When you have the right tools at your disposal, it limits room for error and allows you to work more efficiently.

Having the latest fitness equipment is a great start, but there is an even more powerful piece of machinery you’re going to want to make sure is up and running and performing at its peak before beginning.

And that would be your brain. Your brain is your most powerful tool and when you can understand how it works, and how you can change it when…


And why it’s important to know.

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Having a practice is the “thing” that makes things happen.

Whatever your “it” is that you’re after (i.e. a smaller waistline, a promotion, an organized kitchen), the practice you put in place is what will get you to be able to say, “I did it, I made it happen!

And maybe what you made happen looks a little different than what you expected, or maybe it’s spot on. But whatever you produced came out of the practice you created.

The stronger your practice, the bigger the payoff.

This goes both ways, good and bad.

Bad habits, when practiced dutifully, will results in an outcome you may have not…


Turns out it’s not the goal itself at all.

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How do you plan?

I wanted to get into the habit of writing every day — this is something I’ve been after for years, much in the same way someone who wants to lose weight goes after it repeatedly; zealous at first, and then the hard reality sets in: this isn’t going to be easy.

There are numerous stops and starts but it wasn’t until I saw it beginning to pay off that it clicked for me. The psychology of it promotes getting into the habit for the sake of refining your process. …


So it’s best to stop beating yourself up.

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Failures are insanely important in life. If you haven’t failed at something, you’re missing out.

Failures are indicators and if you know how to properly interpret them instead of throwing your hands up and wailing to the gods in search of answers as to why you’re so failure-prone, you can without a doubt begin living a significantly better life.

Because we all want to live better. And failures show us how.

1. Welcome failures because you figured out how not to do something.

If you’re confident in yourself, meaning failures don’t equate to endless negative chatter about how you’re no good, you’re not talented enough, or gifted, or smart — if you…


Turns out all those little indulgences add up.

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There are very few things I love more than a salty and crunchy potato chip — and I’m talking about the old-school potato chip, none of this artisanal or kettle-cooked nonsense.

Old reliable — Lays.

I confess that a part of me loved having parties for the sole purpose of being able to freely purchase potato chips because let’s be honest, you can’t buy potato chips on a weekly basis, heavens no.

People like us don’t do that — or when we do we make sure they’re buried underneath everything in the cart just in case we run into someone…


So you can begin doing more of the things that you want.

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If someone could bottle up time and sell it, we’d have our first trillionaire to date — unless we have one already and I missed it. If we do, do they sell time?

Imagine it, with bottled time, we’d have time for all the things. The good, the bad, and the utterly joyous things that we never make time for!

Until that glorious day happens though, we have to turn our attention to plausible solutions to the time conundrum, which lucky for us, there are plenty.

All it requires is an open mind, and an ability to organize — and…


It’s all in how you phrase this one question.

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Typically when we begin a sentence with “what if…” it’s signaling something we fear. It can be big and scary as in “What if this lump is cancerous” to the mundane, “What if I’m late picking up my son from baseball—we’re going to be late for piano lessons again!

What if” covers a broad spectrum of possibilities that can take a fine afternoon and nose-dive it into the murky waters of negativity. The mere utterance of a “what if” places us in a perpetual state of worry and fear-mongering, a habit that grows stronger the more we engage with it.


This is how you show up and do the hard work even when you’d rather not.

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I remember a time when I did not work out for over two years. TWO years!

I just had my second baby and the reason I didn’t workout was, well, I was just not in the mood. I was busy with kids — like busy I had never known before.

Not busy like you are with one kid…busy like you just 10x’d the number of mouths you had to feed, laundry to clean, and little tushies you had to wipe. (So funny how your first kid’s butt-size increases when you have a newborn.. …


Self-love is the greatest middle finger of all time.

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Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. — Louise Hay

If you’re one of those people who go off on yourself, sometimes out of friggin’ nowhere — you actually stop yourself and think where the f*ck did that come from — it’s time to change your tune, break the thought pattern, and do something radical. It’s time for some self-love intervention because you’re not doing self-love all that well.

And that’s ok because there are so many things that can turn it around and have you living…


It doesn’t have to be an all-you-can-eat buffet every day.

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Some days I wish I didn’t have to eat… it would just be easier.

It’d be easier because then I wouldn’t have to think about food. …

AM Costanzo

I write about wellness, weight loss, and creating healthy habits. The ability to have a healthy and happy life lies within you! www.amcostanzo.com

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